My ex called me today after many, many moons. We have had no reason to talk. We don't have any children together. We've never owned anything jointly. Our marriage could have been beautiful but he thought it was time to bounce after two years of separation and, well, I agreed. I was just plain tired of fighting to gain his love. Some of you saw me through the entire ordeal. You know who you are. For that, I am truly grateful and will be forever grateful. Please know that.
I was COMPLETELY blown away to hear his voice on the other end. Soon after our divorce was finalized, years ago, we attempted coaching each other through the heartache. But that wasn't working because he was stuck on what he thought was the biggest mistake of his life -- divorcing me. I had moved on and really wanted to see him get out of the rut he had dug for himself. There TRULY is no malice in my heart for that man. He will always own a soft spot in my heart.
He called to ask me if I could send him our divorce decree. I told him that I could send him a copy. It was an awkward conversation, actually. Hours later, we spoke again. I just wanted to know what was really going on with him. Even though years and emotions have separated us, oddly, we still have an unbelievable psychic connection. We do. He brought me up to speed. The death of his grandmother and that he's getting married.
Instantly, I felt a surge of emotion. Both happy and sad. The ex and I, after our divorce, had a conversation where I told him that everyone, myself included and even God had forgiven him for his errors. He needed to forgive himself and move forward. So I'm happy for him. I'm happy that he's forgiven himself and can see his own self-worth and that maybe, just maybe he's FINALLY happy. He and I were meant to be a part of each others lives... even if it was just for a short moment. We were always good friends and I pray that we can remain that way even with our spouses. I mean that with all sincerity. However, I don't think my husband feels quite the same way.
On the flip side, I felt a tinge of sadness. I even shed a tear when he told me the news. I kinda got used to KNOWING that he still wanted me back even after all these years. I felt comfortable that my love had so impressed him that he couldn't find a replacement. Very selfish thinking on my part.
M -- I wish you much joy and happiness. I wish you endless love. I wish you prosperity and posterity and a renewed love for LIFE. You are a BEAUTIFUL MIND!!